Saying NO

I don’t mean it literally, but I think you get my hint 😉

I am one of those people who needs to keep herself busy, almost all the time. I have my day job, which consists in two different job titles, therefore two different jobs, although inside the same company. (I posted about my promotion a couple of days ago. If you want to know what happened, you can read here. It’s quite interesting, promise 😉 ).
Anyway as I was saying, I have my day job. I have my blog, the one you are currently reading. I have my personal Instagram profile which is mostly oriented to clothing (you can peek if you like @chris.messy yep please do, in case you like what you see, press follow :D)… I am still working on it, meaning that it requires its time, attention and energy. I have the gym and meeting friends, spending quality time with my beloved and family. There’s also a very important commitment, which is the membership in an Albanian political organization, LIBRA. This post however is not about LIBRA, that will be for another time, a dedicated post that is.

This post is about making some choices, despite the immediate urge to say YES, because you want to do tons of things, you should also learn to say NO.

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So today I feel like talking about incentives

You see the picture, of this book I am reading
 Well, I am not reading it yet, but I plan to. I have read the other 2, “Think like a Freak” and “Freakonomics” written by the same authors, Steven D. Levitt and Stephen J.Dubner. I think, I messed up the reading order but who cares. Brilliant, amazing, mind-blowing books and very inspiring.

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It’s Sarcasm Time

It’s been almost a month that I have been given a promotion, kind of. Let me explain besides the current position I have been given another one, meaning I have 2 different jobs, inside the  same company
 which is good right? It’s about growing professionally! Yay! My company trusts me, my skills, my abilities. My boss thinks I am so awesome that I deserve to grow, because I am so fucking good at my job
 right? Which is great, right?

And it is. It should be. Since the world we live in, the world I live in has no unicorns
 the only unicorns I have seen so far, are the ones stuck inside a weird lipstick
 but besides that
 nope no unicorns, no sun flowers, no happy chirping birds around.

Since I got the “promotion” or better said some more responsibilities added, I guess I deserved a salary raise
 I guess so, no?

NAH!… NAH!NAH!NAH! WRONG Kristina, WRONG! What the hell were you thinking? Of course you will be taken for granted
 Your boss keeps gossiping with other fellow colleagues that the task was being assigned to you as a result of cutting costs. Instead of paying someone else to do it, let’s just get 2 in 1. Who’s the idiot we can use? Oh, right, Kristina. Sooooooooo convenient.

Anyway, I asked for the raise! Which obviously looked like the most reasonable thing to do. Because, it makes sense to me. Because that’s what I want and I think I have worked really hard for it. The new assignment is a living proof of it. That means that I have earned it. 

However, I got the most unreasonable answer I could possibly dream of

“You get to do both tasks during your usual service hours

Mmmm, yeah why? It’s not my fault that most of the times I get to do everything during my service hours

“You have a small team, compared to other colleagues but you still get paid the same
 so you are not getting a raise

What? Why are you saying me this? What? I am confused. I don’t get it
 Please be it that I am just dumb and I don’t get it. I really want to be dumb! It can’t be!

“However we will evaluate based on seniorship  regarding the raise. We shall let you know

Oh will you? Why do I smell buuuuuuullshiiiiiiiiiit 1000000000 miles away?
Well, life goes on. It could have gone much worse. How would it sound, as for instance: “How much do you get paid? Ah, we think it’s too much
 you basically are not doing anything all day long, are you? Whaaaat, do I see blood in your veins? Haven’t we squeezed it all yet? Oh bloody hell, we need to see into that
 absolutely unacceptable
 you are wasting our oxygen. Stop breathing. You don’t deserve it

So, there is still hope. I am still alive and fueled enough to write. I will let you know what happens next.

xoxo #TheSarcastic”Angel”IsBack

Love yall!


Evening Beauty Routine

Yves Rocher Hydra Vegetal line: (left) mask cream, (right) eye cream, (below) hydrating 24H cream

This post is about my  so-called evening beauty routine. I stress, these steps and products work perfect for me but someone else may find other actions/products (also from other brands) more suitable. It makes perfect sense. Personally I have been using Yves Rocher products for almost a year and a half and I find my skin flawless, moisturized plus very smooth. My choice is the Hydra Végétal line, as it is the right one for my skin type, normal to combined. The main feature of the line is that it moisturizes my skin without making it too shiny or oily. The products contain particles that capture moisture in order to naturally pamper your skin cells.
So besides the golden rule, getting rid of your make up before going to bed, there is a whole after process to it, but essentially yeah you would need to start from that.

First of all if I have been wearing make up during the day, cleaning starts with pouring water on my face, not too cold, not too hot, as water temperature is key. Then I start washing it with soap. This way I can instantly take off most of the make up.

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“Big Girls Don’t Cry” Review


As promised a few weeks ago, finally here my Fay Weldon’s review of “Big girls don’t cry”. i tried to be very careful, providing basic information and opinion, making it “spoiler free”. I have already mentioned it, I know, but I will do that again. I read the book in Albanian, published By Pegi Publishing House, one of the best here in Albania.

And with that said, I hope you enjoy it! 🙂

First of all, know that it’s very straight forward and maybe someone would think of it as bold and brazen. That’s part of this book’s personality, this is how the characters truly are. Most of them are uncensored, because they show their true colors and are not afraid of not faking a facade to show to the rest. Well considering the time, breaking the boundaries, work hard, play hard, party hard and money looked easy but it wasn’t, it has never been, we just keep comparing easier eras to more difficult ones. That’s one of the biggest illusions of our reality.

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Pushteti Blendi Fevziu- Review

Ky ishte një nga bestsellerat e këtij viti, ose për të qenë më të saktë, i dyti libër më i shitur te Panairi i Librit 2016. Bukur shumë!

Im atĂ« ishte shumĂ« kurioz tĂ« dinte pĂ«r çfarĂ« bĂ«hej fjalĂ«. E bleu, e lexoi dhe komenti i vetĂ«m ishte “Ppffff!”.

E lexova. Do ishte shumĂ« pak, thjesht tĂ« thoja qĂ« nuk mĂ« pĂ«lqeu. PĂ«lqimi ose jo, hyn te shijet personale tĂ« gjithsecilit prej nesh dha varet nga shumĂ« faktorĂ«. TĂ« jemi tĂ« qartĂ«, jam njĂ« lexuese si gjithĂ« tĂ« tjerĂ«t dhe kur gjej njĂ« libĂ«r qĂ« ia vlen barra qeranĂ«, jam e gatshme ta promovoj duke e rekomanduar te tĂ« tjerĂ« lexues. MiqtĂ« e mi mĂ« tĂ« ngushtĂ« janĂ« dĂ«shmitarĂ« tĂ« kĂ«saj, por nĂ« kĂ«tĂ« rast nuk mundem, me gjithĂ« dĂ«shirĂ«n e mirĂ«.

Jo, nuk Ă«shtĂ« sepse dua tĂ« hedh baltĂ« mbi njĂ« vepĂ«r letrare, por letrare nuk Ă«shtĂ«.  “Sot gjithçka Ă«shte letĂ«rsi.”shkruan Z. ÒȘili, por kjo nuk ka lidhje me letĂ«rsinĂ« dhe as me esenĂ«. Kjo Ă«shtĂ« hajde tĂ« fantazoj dhe vetĂ«m prej famĂ«s qĂ« kam, prej reklamĂ«s, tĂ« pres qĂ« tĂ« vlerĂ«sohet.

Ka gabime trashanike: 1. Gramatikore 2. Drejtshkrimore 3. Sintaksore. Ky fakt ishte cituar edhe nĂ« njĂ« artikull tĂ« gazetĂ«s “Telegraf”.

  1. Gramatikore? Gjenden plot fjali pa kuptim. Si mund të ndërtosh një fjali vetëm me pjesë të nënrenditur? Si mund të vazhdosh më pas këtë mendim sërish me një fjali që konsiston në pjesë të nënrenditur? Ku janë pjesët kryesore? Qëllimi i një pjese të nënrenditur është, të plotësojë kuptimin e pjesës kryesore dhe ta pasurojë me informacion, përndryshe nuk ka arsye të ekzistojë dhe vetëm nuk mund të qëndrojë.

Do flasim për lakim emrash? Apo trajtën e shquar dhe të pashquar? Po trajtat e shkurtra?

2.Drejtshkrimore? Ka gabime në drejtshkrimin e fjalëve, në apostrofin që mungon, viza në mes të fjalëve si madje-madje etj.

  1. Sintaksore? Sheh presje tĂ« pĂ«rdorura vend e pa vend. Nuk ka hapĂ«sirĂ« midis shenjave tĂ« pikĂ«simit. Nuk ka ndarje dhe dallim tĂ« ligjĂ«ratĂ«s sĂ« drejtĂ« nga ligjĂ«rata e zhdrejtĂ«.

VĂ«rehet njĂ« varfĂ«ri e theksuar nĂ« leksik, derisa mĂ« bĂ«nte pĂ«rshtypje frekuenca me tĂ« cilĂ«n ndeshesha me frazat: thellĂ«-thellĂ«, herĂ«-herĂ«, madje-madje ose kur hasja tĂ« njĂ«jtat fjalĂ« nĂ« distancĂ« prej dy ose  tre rrjeshtash, si “magjepse” (unĂ« mesa di shkruhet magjepsĂ«se, por
) etj.

Nuk jemi tĂ« gjithĂ« gjuhĂ«tarĂ« apo ekspertĂ« tĂ« gjuhĂ«s shqipe edhe pse bĂ«het fjalĂ« pĂ«r gjuhĂ«n amtare por nga kjo analizĂ« e cekĂ«t e imja merreni me mend se sa gjĂ«ra tĂ« tjera mund tĂ« haste dikush qĂ« kĂ«tĂ« e ka profesion.  MĂ« vjen shumĂ« keq, sepse ishin “detaje” qĂ« fare lehtĂ« mund tĂ« ishin evituar. Prandaj ekzistojnĂ« profesionet e ndryshme dhe profesionistĂ«t. KĂ«tu duhej syri  i mprehtĂ«  i njĂ« redaktori.  Fundja po flasim pĂ«r njĂ« libĂ«r qĂ« jam e bindur pa dalĂ« akoma, ishte i destinuar tĂ« ishte i suksesshĂ«m, kĂ«shtu qĂ« Z.Fevziu, Z. ÒȘili mund t’ia lejonin vetes njĂ« shpenzim tĂ« tillĂ«.  Sidomos nĂ«se do kishte njĂ« lexueshmĂ«ri kaq tĂ« gjerĂ«, duhej edhe pak pĂ«rgjegjshmĂ«ri pĂ«r çfarĂ« po nxjerr nĂ« treg kur ke vĂ«nĂ« tellallin nga tĂ« gjitha anĂ«t. NĂ« kohĂ«rat qĂ« po jetojmĂ«,  pĂ«rçudnimi i  gjuhĂ«s shqipe Ă«shtĂ« normalitet. ËshtĂ« kaq e vĂ«shtirĂ« tĂ« shohĂ«sh shkrime pa gabime, rrjedhimisht njĂ« libĂ«r i kĂ«tij kalibri, siç edhe pretendohet  tĂ« jetĂ« nuk duhej  tĂ« binte nĂ« kĂ«tĂ« “kurth”. E turpshme!

Sigurisht që do kisha preferuar të merresha menjëherë me komentimin e përmbajtjes, siç do lexoni më poshtë, por nuk mund të mos ndalesha në ngërçin gjuhësor që ma ndërlikoi leximin në tërësi.

Trajtimi i fenomenit të pushtetit është tejet sipërfaqësor, pavarësisht se Z. Fevziu qartazi përpiqet të ketë një qasje elastike duke ndërthurur momentet e së tashmes me të kaluarën e personazhit. E dimë që loja e pushtetit është e rrezikshme dhe tinëzare. E dimë që pushteti të tjetërson, sepse duhen këllqe të forta dhe asnjë fibër plasteline në organizëm, përndryshe je i marrë fund.

Një i dehur gjithmonë pandeh se është esëll, qiqër madje.

Deformimi nga pushteti Ă«shtĂ« i ngadaltĂ« dhe gati i padukshĂ«m. Madje edhe ata qĂ« kemi pĂ«rreth e kanĂ« shumĂ« tĂ« vĂ«shtirĂ« tĂ« kuptojnĂ« se ç’po ndodh deri nĂ« çastin qĂ« Ă«shtĂ« tejet vonĂ«. Deri nĂ« çastin kur na ndizet papritmas njĂ« llambushkĂ« dhe ndĂ«rgjegjĂ«sohemi, por gjithmonĂ« nĂ« lidhje me tĂ« tjerĂ«t, kurrsesi nĂ« lidhje me veten tonĂ«.

Dua të them që edhe nga vetë eksperienca e Z. Fevziu, që ka parë aq shumë burra të pushtetshëm duhet ta ketë nuhatur sesi infekton dhe pushton pushteti.

Magjia? Makthet? Fundi i tij? Nuk pashë asgjë magjike në libër. Ishin thjesht përshkrime me ngjyra, të mbetura në tentativë. Ngjitja, suksesi në karrierë, postet, pasuritë, privilegjet? Gjatë gjithë librit përsëriteshin po të njëjtët emra, shoqëruar me ndonjë mbiemër të rastit që bënte më shumë bujë gazetareske sesa artistike.

Vrasjet,vendimet gjakatare, përjashtimet, eliminimet? Një tjetër renditje që përsëritet.

Makthet? Sulltani e dënoi me akuzën e tradhtisë. Kaq. Melodi e dëgjuar.

Fundi? Kur tĂ« vjen fundi, si i thonĂ« kĂ«saj pune, kujton fillimin. Kujton se si vjen nga njĂ« origjinĂ« disi modeste dhe adhurimin pĂ«r gjyshin, kujton ambiciet e mĂ«dha pĂ«r tĂ« studiuar dhe pĂ«r t’u bĂ«rĂ« dikush, si arrin tĂ« martohet me njĂ« vajzĂ« tĂ« njĂ« dere tĂ« mirĂ«, si pastaj mohon atĂ« dhe fĂ«mijĂ«t pĂ«r pushtet, si fiton ca mĂ« shumĂ«, si martohet me njĂ« nga konkubinat e haremit tĂ« sulltanit, si fĂ«mijĂ«t e tij me kĂ«tĂ« tĂ« fundit rezultojnĂ« tĂ« jenĂ« njĂ« zhgĂ«njim total

Ndoshta dikush do mĂ« thoshte (me tĂ« drejtĂ«): “Po pse ç’prisje? Fundja kĂ«to lloj historish kanĂ« tĂ« gjitha pak a shumĂ«, tĂ« njĂ«jtĂ«t emĂ«rues tĂ« pĂ«rbashkĂ«t.”.

PĂ«rgjigjja ime do ishte: “Po pikĂ«risht! NjĂ« shkrimtar materializon fantazinĂ« e tij, duke krijuar njĂ« realitet. Ky realitet pĂ«rputhet me atĂ« ku jetojmĂ« ose mund tĂ« jetĂ« ekstremisht jo real, por nĂ« fund fare shkrimtari mban pĂ«rgjegjĂ«si pĂ«r emocionet qĂ« ndjell dhe mendimet qĂ« provokon. Diçka e tillĂ« nuk Ă«shtĂ« e mundur vetĂ«m me njĂ« makro sekuencĂ« veprimesh, sidomos nĂ«se nĂ« thelb tĂ« gjithĂ« kĂ«saj zgjedh tĂ« vendosĂ«sh njĂ« bishĂ« kaq tĂ« ndĂ«rlikuar, qĂ« quhet pushtet.”

xoxo #kristinakoti


My Brilliant Friend

As already promised, this is my review of the book “My brilliant friend”. The original one in Italian is “L’amica geniale” written by Elena Ferrante.  While in Albanian you find it with the title“Mikesha gjeniale”.
Who has had the chance to see my post on Instagram/Facebook yesterday, is already aware of my  fascination.

I am not really sure of my accuracy on this review since I read it in Albanian. The translation is of a very good quality, though. It flows naturally, it looks so organic, so flawless making the reading such a good and enjoyable experience. Plus it’s more convenient as it costs less.  The publishing  house is Pegi, which also happens to be one of the most professional, rigorous publishing houses in Albania. (My personal opinion)

This review is from a plain reader’s point of view (that would be me, yeeeeaaah)and I repeat again, it was an amazing read. I know that it has been reviewed from experts, literature critics and important celebrities/media, also making it a bestseller, but this is not the point really. As there are lots of best sellers that suck (at least to me), but this one is really good and it had me hooked up from the start.

First, I need to tell you something. I had quite lost the sense of reading a novel, since the past year I have been more focused on psychology/social or even economics books which involved matter of fact realities, experiments, studies, statistics… you get the drill. Continue reading My Brilliant Friend


Why “Bitches” get it their own way



Have you heard of these books: “Why Men Love Bitches?” or “Why Men Marry Bitches?”? Have you read any of them?

Ok, I’ve read the first and I found it really interesting. It’s a fun and useful guide, comparing the Nice Girl with the Bitch one. The HUGE message, I squeezed out of it?  Be a “Bitch”!

First, what does it even mean? In the book context, means: (ta ta ta) being a strong, independent, intelligent, self-confident woman. It means to stick to your own values and principles, not to trade-off your dignity for mere volatile and superficial attention (affection). It means knowing your self-worth and that you have all the rights in the world to be respected, treasured, loved and cherished. And the very first one who needs to realize this, is, YOU!

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Colleagues Screwing You Over?

Lately I am surrounded by colleagues that look for a chance to screw someone over, just to be “gracefully” striped off their own responsibilities. Afraid of being made accountable, afraid of mistakes…same old reasons, you get it right? So basically we are just a bunch of idiots going in circles with a target sign glued on our backs… isn’t that hilarious?? Especially for the ones watching which is the other bunch, the exclusive VIP club so I get to play the plaaaaain, worthless “gladiator” whhoooaaaa…! Huh it’s only them watching though… uuuhhh so much for a fan club of my own.. 🙁
Anyway I must say as a gladiator, I am having my time, growing my claws and teeth… which occasionally I need to show off as well.

Because, with some people, believe me there is no other way besides the hard, mmm nope harsh way. 

So, my piece of advice:

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Horrori i vitit

Unsplash thanks @Beth Teutschmann

MeqĂ«  ia dolĂ«m mbanĂ« edhe kĂ«tĂ« vit, i mbijetuam Halloween-it, festĂ«s, maskimeve nga mĂ« tĂ« ndryshme dhe nga mĂ« origjinalet. Ah, po me njĂ« palĂ« brirĂ«, njĂ« kapele polici apo infermiereje dhe u realizua veshja.

PĂ«rtej kĂ«saj, çfarĂ« Ă«shtĂ« shqetĂ«suese apo “horror” Ă«shtĂ« : (ku janĂ« trumbetat) “shqipja”.

Dihet qĂ« tĂ« kesh thjesht kombĂ«sinĂ« shqiptare, i/e lindur/rritur shqiptar/shqiptare nuk tĂ« bĂ«n domosdoshmĂ«risht njohĂ«s tĂ« gjuhĂ«s amtare. Do thoja qĂ«,  turp nĂ«se nuk di tĂ« flasĂ«sh apo tĂ« shkruash gjuhĂ«n mĂ«mĂ«, por fundja ky Ă«shtĂ« realiteti. Dihet gjithashtu qĂ« nuk Ă«shtĂ« e thĂ«nĂ« tĂ« kesh qenĂ« apo tĂ« jesh student filologjiku, poooooooooor tĂ« jesh me profesion gazetar apo tĂ« bĂ«sh punĂ«n e redaktorit dhe tĂ« paguhesh mirĂ« pĂ«r diçka qĂ« kaq dukshĂ«m po e bĂ«n kaq keq, nuk e di ç’emĂ«r t’i vĂ«? NĂ«se kini eeehhhmmm mĂ« falni doja tĂ« thoja “keni” eh kĂ«to kĂ«ngĂ«t me kĂ«to “lyrics” apo tekste, apo vargje apo, mund tĂ« gjejmĂ« diçka tjetĂ«r….

PĂ«r ta bĂ«rĂ« mĂ« tĂ« qartĂ«, nĂ« njĂ« portal online, tĂ« njĂ« lloj prestigji tĂ« konsiderueshĂ«m, po lexoja njĂ« artikull dhe ç’tĂ« lexoja:

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