At some point in our lives, we ask ourselves “What am I going to do with my life?”. Some of us ask that question at 18, 20, 25 or even later… don’t get me wrong here, not that age doesn’t matter (does it?), but that’s not the point.
Sooner you ask, better? Sooner you “know” better… right? Hmm… slow down buddies, it’s not as easy as it sounds; becaaauuuuuuse a long list of “if-s” comes straight forward knocking on the door.
Now I am 27 and I am still struggling to “know” what am I going to do “When I grow up?” Too young? A bit too late, maybe not to have figured it out yet? It’s never too late and I’ ve been told some stories about it (I will share, promise)
I must confess, firstly I am doing this for myself.
Sometimes I wonder, all the things I know now, wish I would have known in my early 20s.
But thinking it through, would I be the person I am today? Probably not. However that doesn’t mean necessarily being a better or a worse me, I would be just different. I’ve always been the type of person to think that we all have a purpose in life and also a meaning to find for our existence. These last couple of years I’ve come to realize that I still think that way but something has been added to that thread, meaning is also being and becoming a “better” version of myself with each day passing by. To me learning new things is essential. That is why I choose to share my thoughts and point of views. Hopefully I will get feedback and not just approving ones, also the disagreeing feedback, different opinions, different angles, different information to which I am not aware of, but other experienced, knowledgeable people out there bring to me unavoidably broadening my sight, people who tell me I am wrong (no one likes to be wrong and I am no exception, however I am determined to work on that… ).Rewinding to “I wish I knew back then what I know now” is also for who needs to know more now. Of course we are an outcome, a living proof of our life learning process and I stress “a never ending one” which everyone needs to go through in order to grow.
If you have it all set, what is it that you want then it’ s perfect, the best case scenario. However for lots of us doesn’t work out that easily. The real world is a very complex one. There is an overflow of information and data availability which sometimes is hard to comprehend, therefore makes it difficult to manage, to filter and in front of making the “right” choice or decision weeeeell things get complicated. As time goes by, we change, we learn, we get to make our choices and some are the most important leading to failure or success? Or are you looking to keep a status quo? Still what would that be, failure or success?
“Do what makes you happy” ? Would it be translated in “Find out what is it that makes you happy”.
Makes sense, and again there will be quite a long journey before getting to the finish line. The thing is, if you do get there, there will always be another one to get to, right? Or who knows along your journey you discover things you didn’t know before, which make you rethink not just options but also priorities. Sometimes we tend to be so oblivious, when “our truths” stand right in front of our eyes and we are unable to grasp them. They are within us or around us within our reach but somehow we are incapable to see, not because we don’t want to, not because we lack good intention. We seem to be missing the signals. How? Well it is quite a fancy portion made of: all sort of existentialism issues, local circumstances, lack of attention, insecurities, fears…. Oh adverse universe… Does it sound like the times, you are willing to find the reason why your conditioner is good for your hair, but in the description label all you read are a bunch of “zol-s” “nol-s” and well you also feel that chemistry at high school has never been your forte.
So for now I say:
“Enjoy the ride” it’s going to take a while.
Remember it’s not just a matter of a finish line, it’s a matter of being able to check out the landscape while we are at it.
When we look at a champion, yes true we focus on the collection of prizes won over his/her career. So success or failure is estimated based on the prizes… How many times have you ever considered all the hard work, all the hours spent in training, sacrifices, suffering injuries. How many times have you considered that it might have gotten so hard and unbearable to the point of wanting to just let it go and just give up… they do not have super powers. They are human beings just like the rest of us… Rings any bell? A certain question popping up? Like for example: “HOW THEN?”.
So in my humble opinion, yes it is not just about the prize, you might look back and remember what you went through to succeed and of course the “how ” part.
Oh and failure? Ouch… that hurts, I know, I know. Keep in mind that it’s a new opportunity for improvement.
Oh and don t roll your eyes, it’s actually true.
No matter how long it takes, do not stop! No matter how hard it gets, do not stop! No matter how many people tell you it’ s not worth it, you are not going to make it, change people (stick with the ones that try to support you in healthy ways) and again do not Stop! If it doesn’t work, change but again do not stop!
Concluding this first caption: I try to keep in mind that there is not just a finish line waiting for me, I have a path to walk. Obviously there are like a zillion different paths bringing to the same destination, I think you have got it by now.
The path we choose is up to us, with every single choice we make we determine the next step.