Category Archives: COACHING

The Uncomfortable Ones

Sometimes you can’t avoid an argument.

Sometimes you can’t avoid but fight back and speak up.

We usually admire the strong people who are able to do such, specially for the right thing. Let’s also keep in mind that this admiration usually is a stand alone one and quite often from a safe distance.

These strong people choose to “do the right thing” at their own expenses, for they appear to be “The Uncomfortable Ones” from a short distance, not so easy to be around with. Subdued attitude is not part of their personality.

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A New Post

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What’s more important? (to bloggers in general I mean) Content? (words, pictures) Fresh, new, creative, original thoughts? Ideas? What about views? Traffic? Visitors? Comments? Likes? You are probably listing other names, right?  Yeah, we could go on for hours.

We want to write awesome stuff, that’s our common goal. We read each other’s work, get amazed, inspired, captivated and all hooked up in our fellow bloggers’ posts, besides our own lives, friends and peers, families, memories, experience and background.

Sometimes I wonder: “Wow, this was so good, what a beautiful, bright mind!” “What a wonderful, brilliant mindset!” “What strength and determination!”

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Overconfident?

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I like this picture of me very much and I feel that it connects with my content

I read somewhere, something related to knowledge and youth, when both embedded in one single person. In lots of the cases this person looks (is) judgemental, knows enough things to make him/her dangerous and something else that I honestly don’t remember…

Ok, so basically hhhmmm… this is me and I try to keep this side of me under control. I have been way worse, and when I look back at myself nearly a decade ago , “Bloody hell, was I dumb!” and it puts a smile on my face. “Was it really me?” “How could I be so silly?”.

I still am a judgmental creature. “I am surrounded by a bunch of morons. A horde of complete, incompetent idiots.” See, this what I am talking about.

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Keep up with motivation

Suddenly I feel like a drained, brown bonsai.  Hang on, brown? But why? I used to be a wonderful, cheerful bonsai, where did my cheer leading leaves go? What about what they call prosperity?

The hardest part of motivation is self motivation!

The whole motivation topic is no piece of cake, only if it was one of my mother’s, baking or cooking not her thing generally.

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Let’s really focus

This week has been testing on many levels, and added to that feeling like a lorry truck has  ran me over. And over. And over, since the beginning on Monday. Work has been messy and busy and a bunch of job interviews, let’s see really.

I haven’t been in the right mind to actually write or even scribble anything. My mother asked me the other day, if I have been writing…

I was thinking that, I usually finish the things I have to, specially meeting deadlines. Apparently when it comes to me and things I might want to do for myself, even when it’s about improvement, acquiring more knowledge, honing skills, I have been procrastinating lately always pushing for “a bit later”. Not a very good sign.

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I don’t feel like writing

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After some stressful days, I don’t feel like writing. I know, it’s a therapy and letting things out helps, and no, I don’t think it’s some kind of block I am having.  I have plenty of ideas inside my creative factory, but I need to take my time with my thoughts and not forcing words and rushing posts. I don’t expect my posts to be perfect, they are not and it’s not my aim, but I want to feel… you know like: “I feel good about the work I just completed!”.

More perplexing is that I have the “READING NON STOP” urge. Plus, I am usually the type of “one book at a time” but I am reading more than one…

I consider it as an experiment, breaking my old habit. I thought that at least the book topics should be different, in order to avoid entanglement or confusion. Yeah, let’s see if I will really like it this way. Obviously I will let you know 🙂

What am I reading?

“Misbehaving” Richard H.Thaler

“The Sense of Style” Steven Pinker

xoxo #kristinakoti

P.S. Too many quotations marks in this post! >.<

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Learn to surf

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The many of us, repeat the same thing over and over again. We are eager to learn. I am eager to learn, because I have so much to, so it’s imperative for me.

Thing is, that the learning process is not always smooth and quiet, don’t get me wrong, if it was always that easy, probably I would  have learned less and less hehe ;p I am kind of a sucker when it comes to difficult stuff (And I still ask myself: “Why am I always getting in trouble?” Go figure! -_- ). And again, don’t get me wrong I have my moments, I break, I cry, I complain, I whine but the thing is, the final and ultimate thing is, I don’t bend. Not that I am saying it for pride  or anything (ok, maybe just a little) but it’s still a matter of fact.

My dear friend says: “Sto comodo se sto scomodo!” which in English means: “I am comfortable when I am uncomfortable!”

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Me and my Ego

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Me: I was wrong though you know it.

Ego: What are you talking about? You can’t be wrong!

Me: UUUhhhhmmm c’mon let’s face it! It was a bad call. I made a mistake since the beginning. I shouldn’t have gone along with it. It was wrong, it was wrong and yet… I carried on.

Ego: Are you out of your mind? It’s not your fault…

Me: Oh yeah? And whose fault is it then? Whose fault is it? Answer me.

Ego: How should I know? I know it’s not your fault. Besides even if it is your fault, so what? Are you going to tell everyone that your decision was wrong? Do you even realize what that means? It means that you don’t know what you are doing. It means you are incompetent and useless. Then your word won’t count more than nothing. Everything you have worked for, your reputation, your credibility, the way people look at you, their trust, their faith in you as a leader everything thrown away. Is that what you want?

Me: Of course not. But it’s pretty obvious that I failed and everybody can see that. So as a leader, should take responsibility. That’s what a leader does, I am the one accountable for what happened. Facing my mistake and then take action to amend it. I think people will respect me even more, besides I am human as everyone else. I made an honest mistake trying to make things better, although it turned out the complete opposite. It was a miscalculation which brought this. If I had stopped in time maybe we wouldn’t having this conversation.

Ego: Oh my, oh my! You, freaking idiot, are you blind or what? Yes, human beings can make mistakes, a simple consultant makes mistakes, a simple employee makes mistakes and you give your support and assistance. You on the other hand, NOOO! You are not supposed to make any, that’s why you call the shots, you can’t be wrong, otherwise you get replaced. You get it? The understanding crowd of people, including a directing board or boss, happens only in the movies. There is no twinkle with awe, twinkle with roar maybe! Back to reality, please!

Me: ….So what do we do…?

Ego: Oh finally! Now you are being reasonable. Let’s see…

 

xoxo #kristinakoti

 

 

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Shadows

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Living in the shadows, is not the worst of the things that can happen to you.

Living in the shadow of someone else is worse.

Living in the shadow of someone else and feel that you have no way out of it, it’s the worse.

Sometimes it can’t be avoided, sometimes it just feels that way, and in this case it doesn’t even matter if it’s the truth or not, you feel the cold of the eclipse which you witness and what is it that you can do about it. Move away? Go away?

See, the shadows are not so easy to get away from. It’s not them just lurking in, they have this sensory system and feel your darkness, they feel welcomed and they creep over and finally get stitched to your talons. They sense the void in your being and they conquer what you have left for them to fill. This is how the eclipse becomes daily and it’s a part of you and you hate it and yet you embrace it, because suddenly it has been so long and you know no other way to take a breath.

It could take an eternity for one to fully realize let alone to fight the eclipse.

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My Motivation Heroes

It can be from the people we surround ourselves with, from celebrities and their biographies, movies, song lyrics, and books.
So this what I am talking about today, my list of motivating books.  You are probably  thinking that I don’t read that much… considering the length of the list, haha. True, I should probably read more and I am looking forward to add more and more motivating titles to this humble list. To me this is “crème de la crème” so far. Oh, needless to say that you are absolutely free to share yours in the comments.

Here we go with the mind stretching bunch:

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