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Tell me: What do you want?

That’s Olivia Pope (Kerry Washington in Scandal) talking and at first sight it appears so easy and obvious, but when you let it sink, it’s actually so elusive to answer.

  • A truthful answer sometimes means, intentions and when they are not so orthodox…DAAAMN don’t we like to judge but not the other way around.
  • A truthful answer means not just intentions, but also feelings that can be transmuted in vulnerabilities and when the stakes are high these make us look weak.
  • A truthful answer could mean compromising a relationship with a beloved one in our lives or even a certain status quo.


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When you leave something behind or someone, specially someone very close or dear to you, it’s not a matter of just leaving behind, is also the matter of being left behind and finally being able to let go, from both sides.

I am probably too young, to talk about “leaving behind” and when I was thinking about it, I couldn’t help but mentally slap myself saying: “Don’t be ridiculous! What could you possibly share with people? You know too well, there are so many out there that have really,truly, deep, heart breaking stories to share…”

However, here I am rambling gibberish (probably) but looking where I stand now, I know that (more than leaving behind, to me is letting go) I’ve let go of things that hurt me, making me feel worthless and insignificant. I did the same with people I used to care about, but couldn’t accept me for what I was. I let go of them, to let go of bad feelings.

Leaving behind is absolutely related to memories, however they made you feel, and it is not about forgetting; it’s about making a choice, walk away, remember what made you ultimately walk away, turn ahead of you.

Sometimes, you have the impression they are fading, I know for sure they are not. They become a part of you, it’s still a choice thus turning you in who you are.



LITTLE booyyyyyy

LITTLE boy’s random thoughts:

“I don’t feel like working today… Hahaha no wonder… I don’t feel like working in general, in fact. What I want to do is, fool around all day, play some idiot games, pretend I am doing my job when my boss is watching or comes close by…

Mmmm… now there is this girl, I hate her guts… Now what does she think she is. Besides, drop the act b****, you don’t even care… You are pretending too. All your facade that you A-R-E    D-O-I-N-G    S-U-C-H   A    G-R-E-A-T     J-O-B!!! Please, like I don’t know your real intentions.Besides, what’s with the attitude??

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Choose the layers of +

I will talk about my team!
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A team which I can freely rely on, no matter what, because it supports me in my good moments but mostly in my bad ones. A warm team that senses my feelings and tries everything to make the impossible, possible. A tireless team that puts layers of effort always, continuously and keeps moving forward and sometimes dragging me, when I am the one that should do the leading, but this team supports me even when I am almost giving up. A loyal team, not because these people follow me unconditionally, or because they don’t know better, but because they make the choice, every single freaking day to follow.
This team has been mine for a year now, yes mine, because these are my people and no one can take that away from me! They have been giving me satisfaction for all this time. They are fearless to speak up and always eager to give me their piece of mind, that’s how we are who we are. Challenges and changes have never looked so easy.
“Oh bring it on!” “Great, it’s not a piece of cake, but I can digest it just the same!”
There would be so much more to talk about, write down a word each day to describe my team,  pile up the papers and I would be granted with the layers of motivation.
Because me and my team, are INDESTRUCTIBLE!
Today I was reluctant to write anything at all, because I am not having the best time ever. But I refuse to complain about my job, because there are a lot of other important things to talk about and cherish, I can find my particle of positivity instead.  Today I am feeling down, but I still choose to be a Proton \oo/.

Can’t wait for:

To my dear friend M!
Now I have also another story which is related to the importance of changes. I assume that when you think you know all the conditions of change and you might be assured or assure yourself that the change guarantees success and an evolution for the better you just can’t wait for it to happen…
A very dear friend of mine used to work in Albania, for almost 4 years whereas he had a family back in Italy, his wife and little daughter. Soon after, his son came to this world and imagine the excitement. Although he loved his job and he was also making good money out of it he missed his family. In the beginning he recognized that trade offs are unavoidable, so he had to keep going. But after a couple of years he confessed something that remained imprinted in my mind: “You know my life has turned into:
“Can’t wait for Friday to come to fly back to my family. And when it’s Sunday and I have to fly back to Tirana again, I find myself thinking again Can’t wait for the next Friday. My life has come to eternally waiting for Fridays!”.

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Mistakes are made… (Part II)

To my close friend O!Part II

A couple of years ago, I gained some weight and it happened quickly. On the blink of an eye my lifestyle had completely changed and I found myself a bit rounder.

I have never been the catwalk model type, with a skinny or bony body structure, however that was not the issue. The  issue was my new lifestyle, sitting behind my working desk all the time and getting comfortable with a bit of mobility absence. Continue reading Mistakes are made… (Part II)


Be a proton \oo/

Be a Proton

I will start this with a question: “What type of person do you think you are?” and going on with “Do you consider yourself an optimist or a pessimist?” “Do you think of yourself as a realistic person?”

Years ago, I wanted to think of myself as a realist. I’ve never been the typical example of an optimistic one, now that’s for sure. I might also add that I had a certain inclination towards pessimism.

And thinking about it I recall, very often thinking “Good things never happen to me!” . I watched myself struggling and fighting so much and so hard for the things I wanted, but it looked like it was always the tough way for me, YEP. Continue reading Be a proton \oo/


Mistakes are made… (Part I)

Part I

John Mayers Keynes once said: “When my information changes, I alter my conclusions. What do you do sir?”

Which brings me back to another saying of John H. Patterson : “Only fools or dead men don’t change their minds. Fools don’t and dead men can’t.”. And recalling my memories of back then I remember saying: “Then obviously I’m dead!” as much as funny it may sound, it also brings to the surface some of my mindsets. Continue reading Mistakes are made… (Part I)